The (Aspiring) Brave Speakers’ Tool Kit

Now You’re Talking- Members Review

‘Talking’ often feels a bit like breathing. We just seem to do it. Humans have been
‘talking’ for a long time. Humans have a rich tradition of oral story telling, singing,
etc… Why then, do so many of us have a complete mental block when it comes
to ‘public’ speaking? Isn’t all speaking ‘public’ speaking? (With the exception of
those of us who work alone and sometimes need to hold a meeting with
ourselves to make sense of it all.)
So in the UK in 2020 what are the barriers to talking and, crucially, to being
heard? In no particular order: class, race, poverty, disability, gender, unconscious
bias, education, status and more. For many of us, our birth right is a deep seated
fear of ‘getting above one’s self’, ‘getting full of one’s self’ or ‘getting above one’s
station’. The expectation society has is that each of us will ‘know our place’.

I am qualified to share my lived experiences as a forty something year old
woman and certainly, growing up there was an explicit expectation within my
family that women were to be meek, quiet, not take up to much space not be a
‘bother’ to anyone, look after others but not ourselves. The idea was entrenched
that we would have nothing of value to contribute or that our story isn’t worth
telling.Within this context it is worth noting that I am, comparatively, privileged –
white, university educated, no visible disability, no visible ‘difference’.
And yet, there is a power in sharing stories. Sharing our stories empowers others
to do so. We give each other permission to speak and to be heard. Shame
silences us. We’re not good enough. Shame kills stories.
This book is the (aspiring) brave speakers’ tool kit. The path to brave, successful,
authentic public speaking is clearly mapped out and planned here. All that is
required, literally, is that we read the book – not a troublesome task as it is an
engaging read.
This shouldn’t be a thing but I even liked the font and the paper. If I find the font
or the paper unpleasant I find I’m distracted from the task of what I’m actually
reading.
There are oodles of helpful tips, examples and anecdotes. I particularly like
PREP: Point-Reason-Example-Point. There is a wholesome scattering of quotes
throughout. One of my favourites is from Judy Garland – ‘Always be a first rate
version of yourself, instead of a second rate version of somebody else.’We are
urged at every turn to keep it real, be authentic, know our audience.
Human beings are social animals. We are all about connection.

Have a read. Get a plan. Get talking. Go connect.
Oh, and the website is great too. www.nowyouretalking.co.uk

Review By Network She Member Claudia Harman

www.claudiahermantherapeuticsupport.com

 

Almost Like a Training Manual

This book landed in my lap at the most opportune time as I was due on stage for my first public speaking gig at the end of February 2020.

The layout of the book made it very easy to follow, almost like a training manual with the tips prompting action and the case studies prompting reflection as to the content of my own speech and delivery of it.

Speaker styles, authenticity and having am anchor phrase all resonated with me and I ended up revisiting my preparations as I had allowed audience perception change my delivery and wasn’t being my authentic self.

This book complimented the teaching of my speaker coach beautifully and since speaking at the event in February I have been approached twice over to deliver my talk again.

Review By Network She Member Beverley Futia

https://www.facebook.com/arobotiamnot/

Check out the original article by author of “now you’re talking” Lyn Roseaman

 

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