Who’s first in the queue?
Why it’s time to change priorities and put yourself first
by Christine Mclean
If you are reading this while waiting for the tea to cook, the washing to finish, shouting upstairs to the children to do their homework, boiling the kettle, having one eye on your phone in case important business emails come through, and rubbing the dog’s tummy with your foot hoping to pacify it and convince it that it doesn’t need a walk right this very moment… then chances are you are just the same as most other business women in the universe.
Let’s face it, the majority of us could do multi tasking as an Olympic sport!
Known as The Wife Coach. No, you don’t have to be a ‘wife’ to gain benefit from my messages because they are all about your relationship with yourself.
So… Who are you really? Wife/ partner, business woman, mum, daughter, friend, school run supervisor, dog walker? What do you enjoy doing just for you, and more importantly do you do it?
My experience as a coach and designer of life balance workshops is that women often put themselves right to the back of their ‘to do’ list; business women in particular. I will do that when ‘the kids grow up’, when ‘we get a bigger/smaller house, when ‘I get that next contract finished’.
Ask yourself right now, when was the last time you did something just for you, that did not directly benefit anyone else except you. If you can’t remember then maybe the time for changing that around, even if ever so slightly, is now.
Why? In my experience and to be honest in my own life experience too, we tend to do things because we think we should, or we feel that people will judge us if we don’t. We can get resentful and burned out, stressed and snappy (usually at the wrong people). Taking a little time just for ourselves can help rebalance our day, even if it’s just a walk at lunch time or in between meetings.
As business women we need to be ‘on the ball’, able to think clearly and multi task like a champion decathlete. Make a plan today to put a little ‘you’ time into each day and to feel happy that you have done it. Athletes take time to relax and reinvigorate and so should we.
Also I would like you to consider this, if you are putting something off until ‘the time is right’, something that you really, really want to do, but you give yourself a hundred reasons why not to do it. Ask yourself this, what if the only time you had was now? What would you be doing? Maybe you could let us know in the next issue the kinds of things you decided to do that you had put off for a while?
